These are just some of the posts I see all over social media these days and let me just say, I'm OVER it! Enough already with the agenda pushing. As a mother of 5, I'm pretty set in my ways. I know how I want to do things. I know how I've messed up and I've learned from my mistakes. I've been induced, I've had epidurals. I've had a natural child birth. I've nursed 5 kids (and ALWAYS use a cover) and send them to a Christian school. I've had babies sleep with me and I've had some that slept well in their beds from early on. The best part is, my husband and I got to choose! Sure people gave suggestions and advice but ultimately the choice was ours based on what we felt was best for us after prayerful consideration.
My point is this, I got to choose how I would mother and raise my children. Did I do it the best and most perfect way? Probably not to a lot of people but it was what was best for me. I'm tired of people "casually" putting their agenda out for everyone to see. As if we don't know what they are posting stuff for. I'm just ready to see more post encouraging moms. ESPECIALLY new moms. In an age of social media and pictures of smiling moms and precious babies we are often putting a false sense of reality out for these young moms to see. They need to see the struggle of getting used to baby schedules and life as a mom. They need someone telling them they will make it. NOT get on Facebook or Twitter and see that the way they chose to give birth is the reason their baby was/is sick. I think it's time that all moms stop pointing fingers and judging each other's parenting style and just encourage one another the best we know how.
Now, what I'm not saying is that you can't tell people what worked best for you. By all means, whatever choice you make, own it! Love it! Be confident in it but be careful not to push it as "the way people who love Jesus" would do it. I'm all about parenting biblically, but there are some areas that scripture is silent on and we must use prayerful discernment.
I want people to stop pointing fingers and talking about moms behind their backs. I want people to stop making others feel like inadequate mothers and somehow less godly because of whatever choice they made. I myself am guilty of this very thing, but what good does it do? None. If someone asks my opinion I will give it but if I've not been asked its best that I keep it to myself.
The only thing I feel is vital for us, as mothers, is prayer. Pray for these moms. Pray for wisdom as they embark on this lifelong journey into motherhood. Pray for them to do what scripture is VERY clear about, training our children to know and love Jesus, serving others, spreading the Gospel, loving the Word and the Church.
If you are a home birther or a home school mom, I admire you. If you carried your Baby til 42 weeks and your doctor induced you, I admire you too. If you had a breech baby or baby in
distress and were told you would have to have c-section, I admire you. If you are a nursing mom...WAY TO GO! If you just don't like the idea of nursing and find bottles are great for your family, good for you! I'm done judging. I'm done passing my way off as the best and perfect way. I WILL be an encourager. Even if it kills me. Ha!
Beautiful...just like you!
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